Browsing: Marriage

By Oluwafunke Allen The second option on the list I’ve been given is the most direct of the bunch: Everything…

By Oluwafunke Allen Someone on my small marketing team sent me a line last week and said, simply, “What if…

By Oluwafunke Allen Once a month, I stand in front of a room at Daystar’s Marriage and Family Life ministry…

By Oluwafunke Allen One spouse wants help. The other says, flatly, “I’m not doing that.” This is one of the…

A wife once told me, quietly and with a lot of guilt in her voice, “I feel like I’m lapping…

People ask me constantly what “actually works” to keep a marriage together, usually hoping for one secret they haven’t tried…

A young woman sat in premarital counselling with me a few years ago and said, with total confidence, “I just…

I recommend the Five Love Languages to couples all the time. It’s a genuinely useful framework — it gives people…

A husband said something to me a few years back that I still think about: “We run this house like…

I once sat across from a couple who had spent fourteen months planning their wedding. Fourteen months. They could tell…

A gentle note before we start: this one touches on betrayal, including infidelity, in general terms. If that’s a raw…

It rarely gets named for what it is, because it doesn’t announce itself as a weapon. It shows up as…

Somewhere around the second sleepless month, most couples quietly stop being a couple and start being a very tired operations…

Nobody hands you a manual for this part. You get taught, extensively, how to choose a spouse — but almostnobody…

Every couple that has ever sat in my office and said “we just need to sort out our finances” has,…

Years before I was his wife, my husband handed me sole signatory access to his salary account. Not a shared…

by Oluwafunke Allen My husband and I got on a call recently with our marriage mentor, in a small group…

Here’s a statistic I’ve watched play out in my counselling room for fifteen years, long before I ever saw it…

Nobody hands you a manual at the hospital. You get a car seat demonstration, a stack of pamphlets about feeding…