By Oluwafunke Allen Four words. No comma, no colon, no named institution. Rewrite Everything You Were Taught About Sex. Of…

By Oluwafunke Allen Of the four subtitle options sitting on my desk this week, this is the only one that…

By Oluwafunke Allen The second option on the list I’ve been given is the most direct of the bunch: Everything…

By Oluwafunke Allen Someone on my small marketing team sent me a line last week and said, simply, “What if…

By Oluwafunke Allen Before I tell you the last thing I learned from this whole title saga, I want to…

By Oluwafunke Allen While the “and versus but” question keeps me genuinely undecided, a smaller question attached to it turned…

By Oluwafunke Allen Here’s a sentence for you: “She’s brilliant, but she’s difficult to work with.” Now notice something —…

By Oluwafunke Allen I’ve now made the confident case for keeping “but” in this title twice on this blog. I…

By Oluwafunke Allen “Should we talk to our pastor about this, or do we need actual counselling?” I get some…

By Oluwafunke Allen Once a month, I stand in front of a room at Daystar’s Marriage and Family Life ministry…

By Oluwafunke Allen One spouse wants help. The other says, flatly, “I’m not doing that.” This is one of the…

Fifteen years ago, if you’d asked me what hope looked like inside a struggling marriage, I would have given you…

By Oluwafunke Allen There’s a fear I hear so often it might as well be a category of its own:…

A gentle note before we start: this post touches on trauma and mental health, briefly and in general terms —…

A husband said something to me once that I’ve never forgotten: “Our small group knows more about our marriage than…

Somewhere along the way, a lot of us learned to treat desire like a problem God allows rather than a…

By Oluwafunke Allen Most people choose a marriage counsellor the way they choose a restaurant a friend mentioned once —…

By Oluwafunke Allen People occasionally ask me what “NLP” means after I mention it, usually with a slightly worried look,…

A couple sat across from me not long ago, both of them visibly exhausted, and the wife said the thing…

A gentle note before we start: if you’re reading this in the middle of trying to forgive something specific and…

Here’s a small experiment. Ask ten Christians you know, off the top of their head, to summarise what’s in Song…

By Oluwafunke Allen I want to say something that might sound strange coming from a counsellor: I don’t think every…

People ask me constantly what “actually works” to keep a marriage together, usually hoping for one secret they haven’t tried…

Most of us were taught what the marriage bed isn’t — not before the wedding, not with anyone but your…

A gentle note before we start: if you’re the one carrying the spiritual mismatch in your own marriage right now,…

Somewhere in the last few decades, marriage picked up a vocabulary it was never built to carry — “what am…

A wife once told me, quietly and with a lot of guilt in her voice, “I feel like I’m lapping…

People ask me constantly what “actually works” to keep a marriage together, usually hoping for one secret they haven’t tried…

By Oluwafunke Allen A gentle note before we start: this one names some real pressures tied to family honour, culture,…

A young woman sat in premarital counselling with me a few years ago and said, with total confidence, “I just…